Sad songs to help weather grief

By Gary Bennett

This article appears in the August 29, 2024 issue of the Frederick News-Post’s “72 Hours” entertainment insert.

In honor of National Grief Awareness Day on Aug. 30, I listened to some of the saddest songs ever written and recorded, trying to pick out the saddest ones of all.

I’ve experienced my own share of grief, like most people my age: parents dying, siblings dying, losing jobs and losing love.

But as a volunteer counselor at Camp Jamie — Hospice of Frederick County’s grief camp for children — I’ve also been privy to the heartbreaking grief of kids who’ve lost parents. Nothing compares to that.

At camp, it always surprises me how effective music therapy is with grieving children. There’s just something about sad music that makes you realize you are not alone in your feelings — that others have experienced what you’re experiencing.

So if you’re experiencing some form of grief right now or just need a good cry, I present to you my top 10 saddest rock songs. Most deal with lost love, but there are some exceptions.

My No. 1 sad song not only features being jilted at the altar but also a father dying and a mother dying of grief because her husband died (“the only man she ever loved”). Suicide is contemplated along with the existence of God. All in about 3 minutes!

1. “ALONE AGAIN (NATURALLY)”

Gilbert O’Sullivan, 1971

This obscure Irish singer somehow penned the saddest No. 1 song I’ve ever heard. Amazingly, he never experienced any of the misfortunes he wrote so evocatively about.

“Left standing in the lurch at a church were people saying, ‘My God, that’s tough. She stood him up. No point in us remaining.’”

2. “MY HEART WILL GO ON”

Celine Dion, 1997

This Oscar-winner for best original song for “Titanic” mourns love lost in the most tragic of circumstances. Who can forget the mournful flute arrangement as Rose recalls Jack slipping away into the icy depths?

“Every night in my dreams, I see you, I feel you. That is how I know you go on.”

3. “TEARS IN HEAVEN”

Eric Clapton, 1992

Clapton’s heartfelt ballad stems from unimaginable pain: mourning his 4-year-old son’s death from a fall from a 53-story building in 1991.

“Would you hold my hand, if I saw you in heaven? Would you help me stand, if I saw you in heaven?”

4. “LANDSLIDE”

Fleetwood Mac, 1975

Written and performed by Stevie Nicks, the song contemplates the regret that comes with getting older and things beginning to slip away.

“But time makes you bolder, even children get older, and I’m gettin’ older, too. I’m gettin’ older, too.”

5. “TRACES OF LOVE”

Classics IV, 1969

This ingenious songwriting mechanism uses souvenirs of a failed love affair to recall the pain.

“Faded photograph, covered now with lines and creases. Tickets torn in half, memories in bits and pieces. Traces of love long ago that didn’t work out right.”

6. “AT SEVENTEEN”

Janis Ian, 1975

This Grammy-winner for best pop female performance brutally depicts a teenage girl’s angst at not fitting in but desperately wanting to.

“To those of us who knew the pain of valentines that never came, and those whose names were never called when choosing sides for basketball.”

7. “CAT’S IN THE CRADLE”

Harry Chapin, 1974

Chapin’s only No. 1 song recounts the sad story of a dad who has no time for his young son growing up, but then the grown-up son turns the tables on his now-elderly dad.

“My son turned 10 just the other day. He said, ‘Thanks for the ball, Dad — come on, let’s play. Can you teach me to throw?’ I said, ‘Not today. I got a lot to do.’ He said, ‘That’s OK.’”

8. “BY THE TIME I GET TO PHOENIX”

Glen Campbell, 1967

This Jimmy Webb-penned classic explores the difficulty in leaving a failed romance when the other person still loves you.

“By the time I make Oklahoma, she’ll be sleepin’. She’ll turn softly and call my name out low, and she’ll cry just to think I’d really leave her, though time and time I’ve tried to tell her so.”

9. “DUST IN THE WIND”

Kansas, 1977

This song, featuring a mournful violin arrangement, regrets the fact that human life, with all of its hopes and dreams, is ultimately meaningless in the grand scheme of things.

“I close my eyes, only for a moment, and the moment’s gone. All my dreams pass before my eyes — a curiosity, dust in the wind. All they are is dust in the wind.”

10. “OPERATOR (THAT’S NOT THE WAY IT FEELS)”

Jim Croce, 1972

This tuneful ballad from the star-crossed, blue-collar rocker uses a fleeting friendship with a compassionate telephone operator to finally accept losing his love.

“Operator, could you help me place this call? ‘Cause I can’t read the number that you just gave me. There’s something in my eyes. You know it happens every time I think about the love I thought would save me.”

HONORABLE MENTIONS

Adele’s “Someone Like You,” The Beatles’ “Yesterday,” The Beatles’ “She’s Leaving Home,” Bee Gees’ “How Can You Mend a Broken Heart,” Eric Carmen’s “All By Myself,” The Carpenters’ “Rainy Days and Mondays,” Johnny Cash’s “Hurt,” Tracy Chapman’s “Fast Car,” John Denver’s “(Sometimes I Feel) Like a Sad Song,” Elton John’s “Empty Garden,” George Jones’ “He Stopped Loving Her Today,” Gladys Knight and the Pips’ “Neither One of Us,” Bobby Goldsboro’s “Honey,” Sinead O’Connor’s “Nothing Compares 2 U,” Roy Orbison’s “Crying,” REM’s “Everybody Hurts,” Snow Patrol’s “Chasing Cars” and Hank Williams’ “I’m So Lonesome I Could Cry.”

Gary Bennett is a longtime Frederick resident who spends his time hiking, biking, volunteering and providing childcare for grandchildren. He is married and retired from his career as a nonprofit marketing executive.

B-I-N-G-O! Where to try your luck in Frederick

By Gary Bennett


This article appears in the September 20204 issue of the Frederick News-Post’s Prime Time magazine.

So you think baseball is America’s national past time? Think again.

Go to any of the many Frederick institutions that offer bingo, and you’ll soon be convinced otherwise.

On any given day or night in Frederick, there is sure to be a bingo caller belting out letter/number combinations to rapt, lively crowds — in fire stations, civic clubs, veteran’s clubs, senior centers and nursing homes.

HISTORY

According to the National Bingo Game Association, bingo originated in Italy in the early 1500s. It was part of their national lottery.

It was popularized in New York in the 1930s as a good distraction for economic troubles brought on by the Great Depression. A toy manufacturer soon produced a boxed game called “Beano” because, originally, the numbers on a card were covered by beans. Legend has it the name changed to bingo when a friend of the manufacturer got so excited that she shouted “bingo!” when she won.

Today, it is estimated that over 60 million people in the U.S. play bingo regularly. About 10% play daily, 32% weekly, 53% monthly and 6% at least once a year. About the same number attended a Major League baseball game in 2023.

BENEFITS

Bingo is a sedentary activity, and that is one reason why so many seniors play it. But the biggest reasons? It’s a lot of fun, it offers the chance to socialize while playing and, in many cases, big money is at stake.

Scientists weigh in that bingo can help anyone, not just seniors, sharpen memory, think more quickly, improve mood, promote healing and hone hand-eye coordination.

WHO PLAYS?

We may have to change our perception of who the typical bingo players are. Greatest Generation? Nope. Baby boomers? No, again.

When you include casinos that offer it and online bingo games, Millennials lead the way. They are followed by Gen X-ers and Gen Z-ers. Baby boomers trail well behind.

It should be no surprise. The younger generations have embraced gambling apps (where bingo is now prevalent) and had more time than most to kill during the pandemic — and so turned to bingo, poker and other “old-time” games.

BINGO IN FREDERICK

Local establishments that offer bingo say it’s a wonderful draw and is often used as a fundraiser. People have time to eat and drink while playing and are not shy about spending their disposable income.

Bingo is mostly a game of chance, which puts all players on an equal footing. Many players like that.

But serious players think strategically to increase their odds of winning. The most basic rule is the more cards you play, the higher your chance of yelling “bingo!”

A serious player may also want to look for games where the winning pattern is more complicated than a typical straight line. The more complicated the pattern, say a Z pattern or blackout (where you must cover your entire card), the more likely that recreational players may fall behind or get confused. Serious payers also gauge the room for distracted and otherwise occupied players who may miss the chance to call bingo but still have their money at stake.

Bingo games often have progressive jackpots, which increase in value if more people buy into the game, so players need to find a balance between the number of players and the amount of money to be won.

A BABE IN THE WOODS (WITH ELKS)

An afternoon or evening of bingo may not be what you think.

I can attest as I recently attended my first cash bingo game. This was a great accomplishment for me. Heck, I’ve never even played the lottery!

I can advise you’d better be thinking clearly, as there are many decisions to be made, even before you settle into your chair for the first game. And once the games begin, your concentration and dexterity better be at its peak. Every second counts when playing bingo, and hand-eye coordination is paramount.

On a Tuesday afternoon at the Elks Lodge on Willowdale Drive, about 75 other folks and me packed into their grand ballroom to play a little bingo.

“A little bingo” is probably not the right phrase.

During a three-hour session, we played 22 games and even took time out for an occasional 50-50 raffle and several lotto (aka “pull tab”) drawings. We even had an intermission, which was great for mingling. Truth is, bingo begins to get a little tedious, but with money at stake, you tend to want to power through it.

Most of the players seemed to be regulars, their joking and kidding at odds with their clear thirst to win. Some of these friendly rivals were even passing around homemade cookies. Being new, I was afraid to try any.

Of the 75 players, about 90% were woman. The other men and I clearly stood out. When a man won, he got roundly booed. The in-person crowd, as opposed to online bingo games, was decidedly of the Greatest Generation cohort, followed not far behind by us boomers.

There was no shortage of help offered when I mentioned this was my first time. The sharks may have smelled fresh blood, but I was, nevertheless, happy to receive it.

First, I had to decide how many cards to purchase. For the 22 games, most featured a minimum card level of nine cards. Other games featured three cards and sometimes just one special card. I opted to spend just $20 for the minimum set of cards. Even then, I had more than 100 cards to juggle for the 22 games. Others had many more cards than I did and obviously spent much more money. The more players and the more money spent means larger jackpots and payouts.

I was handed a colorful stack of cards. Each game is played on a different colored card to keep things straight. I also purchased a handy “dabber,” which is how you mark the numbers called on your card.

Most games have a 50% payout, meaning the winners get 50% of the pot and the “house” gets 50%. A few special games featured a 75% payout.

Like most large bingo halls, the Elks’ grand ballroom features a high-end tumbling and floating ball machine that ensures random balls are selected, a video monitor trained on the drawn ball, and a large electronic board that displays all numbers that are called. It was indeed a professional setup.

Of the 22 games, each had a different payout. The winner of game one got $44; game 2, $60. The winner of the final “jackpot” walked away with $300. All other game winnings were in between these figures.

The room had a friendly but competitive vibe. However, you got the feeling that a lot of these sweet, little old ladies were out for blood.

I came away with no winnings but pledged to come back and try again.

Gary Bennett is a longtime Frederick resident who spends his time hiking, biking, volunteering and providing childcare for grandchildren. He is married and retired from his career as a nonprofit marketing executive.

The role of tax credits in affordable housing

By Gary Bennett and Hugh Gordon

This articxe appears in the Opinion section of The Frederick News-Post on Saturday, August 3, 2024.

How do moderately priced dwelling units actually get built in Frederick? The short answer: It’s not easy.

It takes a lot of players coming together to make these units happen. The prices of land, material, labor costs and building fees force developers to concentrate on market rate developments to turn a profit.

All you have to do is drive around Frederick County and see all the “From the $500,000s” signs and $2,500 monthly rent ads to see this is so. Even though city and county ordinances encourage developers to build moderately priced units, many are not built because of fiscal realities.

For the last three decades, when these affordable units do get built, the federally funded low-income housing tax credit (LIHTC, pronounced “Li-tech”) has been the driving force. It is a rare congressional bipartisan success story. It finances about 90% of all affordable developments nationwide.

But these tax credits are limited, and getting one is an uncertain and highly competitive process for developers.

And, the kicker is that counties and municipalities like Frederick have little say in them. Our local governments can sweeten the pot with things like impact fee exemptions, negotiated taxes and deferred loans, but they only hear about these affordable projects when the developer approaches them for a letter of support during the competitive process.

Here’s how LIHTC works:

Federal tax credits are allocated to state housing agencies by a formula based on population. Each state agency, including Maryland’s Department of Housing and Community Development, establishes its affordable housing priorities.

Developers then compete for an award of tax credits based on how well their project satisfies the state’s housing needs.

Developers receiving an award use the tax credits to raise capital from investors. The tax credits are claimed over a 10-year period, but the property must be maintained as affordable housing for a minimum of 15 years.

Units funded by LIHTC must be affordable for people earning no more than 60% of the Area Median Income (AMI). Rent may not exceed 30% of their income.

What about those making less than 60% of AMI?

That’s a big problem if you believe safe, decent, affordable housing is a basic necessity for everyone like the Affordable Housing Council does. The sad truth is most LIHTC buildings are unaffordable to families with incomes below 60% AMI.

Here’s why:

There are two types of low-income housing tax credits: 4% and 9%. The 9% rate provides more tax credit to the developer, of course, but is ultra-competitive.

Therefore, most affordable units are developed using the 4% credit, which is a “matter of right,” meaning these credits are usually automatically available.

Unfortunately, not as much tax credit for the developers means most low-income developments are not affordable to those with the lowest incomes.

There is a clear need to reconsider how affordable housing is financed in America. Relying on LIHTC is not producing nearly enough units to address the huge deficit of affordable housing.

HUD should adjust rates to ensure that all low-income families can qualify to live in LIHTC buildings.

One way to expand access for very low-income households would be to better coordinate housing vouchers and tax credit projects to help families make up the difference in rent payments.

Frederick’s low-income developments

In recent years, due to efforts by the county’s Division of Housing and the city’s Department of Housing and Human Services, Frederick County and the city of Frederick have attracted a sizable number of affordable rental developments that utilize these tax credits. See the attached chart.

Among a few of the successful older developments not on the chart include Sinclair Way at 350 W. Patrick St., Orchard Park at Ballenger Run at 5234 Black Locust Drive and The Fred on Waverley Drive.

The new Prospect Center campus at the Old State Farm building on Himes Avenue is slated to be mostly affordable units. The plan is for 200 in four years.

The Junction at 511 W. South St. will add roughly 175 units. The Madison at 1724 N. Market St. will add another 60 affordable units.

Frederick County is quite active, but still has a long way to go in providing affordable homes for its residents.

The chart shows a total of about 1,350 affordable units in service now or soon to be. A 2016 housing needs assessment study (scheduled to be updated in 2025) shows a gap of 5,700 units.

To find an affordable home of your own, your best bet is to go to the development’s website and apply or get on a waiting list.

Editor’s note: Gary Bennett is a retired marketing executive. Hugh Gordon is the association executive for the Frederick County Association of Realtors and has decades of experience in the real estate world, including 24 years as a mortgage banker. They are longtime Frederick County residents and members of the Frederick County Affordable Housing Council.

The unlikely TV stars of 1974

By Gary Bennett

Senator Sam Ervin (D) North Carolina, 1974

This article appeared in the August 1, 2024, issue of Frederick News-Post’s “72 Hours” entertainment insert.

To say that 2024 has been a momentous year in presidential history is putting it mildly. Attempted political assassinations and a sitting, first-term president declining to run for a second term have certainly happened before, but never in the same week!

In this regard, perhaps 1974 was a kinder and gentler year politically, but it certainly didn’t seem that way at the time.

As we mark the 50th anniversary of Watergate and President Richard M. Nixon’s impeachment, near-conviction and subsequent resignation, it’s easy to forget what a trying, yet strangely entertaining, time this was for our nation.

Bear with me on the “entertaining” part. I’ll explain.

Nowadays, if you take out the extraordinary recent events, we view history, if we consider it at all, through a lens of multiple modern presidential impeachments (and threats of impeachment) reaching back to the late 1990s and the seemingly never-ending indictments and possible trials of a former president.

Nothing shocking about 1974 then, right? Wrong.

You must remember that the Watergate scandal was new territory for all of us back then. The government was largely trusted (quaint, I know). Even the oldest among us could only read about our one and only presidential impeachment in the history books. Even then, Andrew Johnson wasn’t convicted and removed from office. It was a slap on the wrist in 1868, and we all expected the same for Nixon.

There are also stark differences in how broadcast news is gathered and disseminated now compared to 1974. Today, Mr. Trump’s troubles were largely relegated to manageable bites on the nightly network news and talk shows. You can throw in social media information and misinformation for good measure, too. Saturation? Sure, but there’s enough variety that we can avoid depressing news if we want to.

Senator Howard Baker (R) Tennessee, 1974

In 1974, we had exactly three major TV channels: NBC, CBS and ABC. All three covered Watergate wall-to-wall. There was no escaping Mr. Nixon’s troubles. And there were no cell phones, Facebook, TikTok or Instagram to distract us.

But strangely enough, most people were enthralled by the inner workings of government and the race to get to the unadulterated truth, something that seems unobtainable today. We even found us a few heroes along the way.

As a rising senior in high school during most of 1974, I was just becoming politically aware. The threat of being drafted and sent to Vietnam was lifted after my junior year in 1973, when the U.S. and North Vietnam announced an end to hostilities and the draft ended. The last few Americans “in country” were famously and haphazardly extracted from rooftops in North Vietnam by choppers, and that was that. We moved on.

Things were looking pretty good until early 1974, when we heard about a clumsy 1972 break in at Democratic National Headquarters in Washington, D.C., by a bunch of inept burglars, inexplicably called “plumbers.” Turns out they were Republican operatives working on behalf of the Committee to Re-Elect the President, or “CREEP” for short.

I would come home after school in the spring and fall or after working my part-time job in the summer, flip on the TV, and find a bunch of overweight white guys, i.e., congressmen and senators, sitting at large, mahogany tables, grilling other overweight white guys (mostly with crew cuts) about “what the president knew — and when he knew it.”

Day after day. Even during prime time. But it was all so fascinating!

Except for a few, congressmen and senators were fairly obscure back then. But soon, along came a fellow named Sam Ervin, a folksy, white-haired Democrat from North Carolina with eyebrows that were seemingly alive and a Southern drawl right out of central casting. People just ate him up. He arrived day after day as the chair of a Senate select committee to investigate the 1972 presidential campaign. He had a way of skewering people with kindness and a sleepy, “aw shucks” demeanor.

His top lieutenant was Howard Baker, a much younger, urbane Republican from Tennessee. Smooth, handsome and self-effacing, he was made for the cameras. He killed with a kind of cool, “I-already-know-the-truth” manner. And get this: He was widely described as a “liberal” Republican. Those don’t exist today, unless you want to consider the wayward RINOs.

Together, “Senator Sam” and Howard Baker were the dynamic duo of prime-time TV all summer long and into the fall. They were on TV more than Hawkeye Pierce or Archie Bunker.

The senators did battle against a rogue’s gallery of grim-looking TV villains all within the president’s circle.

White House chiefs John Ehrlichman and H.R. “Bob” Haldeman; the sitting attorney general no less, John Mitchell; White House counsel John Dean (who cooperated with the prosecution and is still alive); lead “plumber” James McCord; break-in planners G. Gordon Liddy and E. Howard Hunt; and a slew of other slimy characters are all indelibly imprinted on my brain from that breathtaking time. Suffice it to say, after this fiasco, government was no longer trusted.

Of course, kind of like the Wizard of Oz, the key character in this melodrama rarely appeared onscreen in 1974. When he did, Nixon sat stoically alone in the oval office, peering into a TV camera complaining that “I am not a crook” and “when the president does it, it’s not a crime.” To Nixon’s everlasting credit, or more likely because it really was a more innocent time, that sentiment never reached the Supreme Court for a ruling.

Maybe I was a naive teenager, but it never felt like a constitutional crisis to me, at least not in the sense that we hear about today. I can’t recall that term ever being used. Nixon had the good sense to appoint a grandfatherly-looking, soft spoken, obscure congressman from Michigan, a fellow named Jerry Ford, to be his vice-president. This, after his first vice president, Maryland’s own Spiro Agnew, resigned in 1973 due to corruption. Naturally.

Nixon also never incited violence to hold onto his job. I suspect it was indeed in his nature to do so, but thankfully several fellow Republicans urged him to resign to save the country from going through an impeachment and a painfully certain conviction. Republicans declined to save him even though they could have. With two-thirds of the Senate (67%) needed for conviction, Democrats held that chamber by a margin of 57% to 43%.

President Richard M. Nixon (R), 1974

It may seem quaint today, but country truly came before party back then. It also didn’t hurt that Nixon was a wholly unlikeable character. The hero-worship that seems to extend to some politicians today didn’t really exist back then. OK, maybe for the Kennedys.

Simon and Garfunkel summed up the times in their song “Bookends”: “Time it was, and what a time it was. It was a time of innocence, a time of confidences.” So true.

I leave you with a rough timeline of “our long, national nightmare,” as Jerry Ford put it when he pardoned Nixon in late 1974 when he became president.

Most wanted to see Nixon in jail for his actions. I felt ambivalent about that. He did end the Vietnam War, after all, and did some other good things like create the Environmental Protection Agency. A jailed Nixon may have hurt the country more than a pardoned Nixon. I guess we’ll never know.

This mess extended for the near entirety of that fateful year of 1974. I remember it well but certainly don’t miss it.

1974 TIMELINE

March 1 — Seven former White House officials are indicted for their role in the 1972 break-in of the Watergate Hotel and Democratic National Headquarters in Washington, D.C.

May 9 — The House of Representatives Judiciary Committee opens formal hearings in the impeachment process against Richard Nixon.

May 17 — The Senate Select Committee on Presidential Campaign Activities opens hearings into the Watergate scandal.

June 27 — The Senate Select Committee issues a damning seven-volume, 1,250-page report implicating the president.

July 24 — The Supreme Court rules 8-0 in United States vs. Nixon that the president cannot withhold subpoenaed White House tapes proving he knew about the break-in and orders him to surrender them to the Watergate special prosecutor. Nixon refuses, citing “executive privilege.”

July 27-30 — The House Judiciary Committee adopts articles of impeachment, charging Nixon with obstruction of justice, failure to uphold laws and refusal to produce material subpoenaed by the committee.

Aug. 5 — The country is shocked when the “smoking gun” tape of June 23, 1972, is revealed, in which Nixon and White House Chief of Staff H.R. “Bob” Haldeman discuss (in very colorful language) using the CIA to block an FBI inquiry into Watergate. Let that sink in.

Aug. 6 — Nixon’s support in Congress collapses, even among fellow Republicans.

Aug. 7 — Three Republican Congressional leaders, Barry Goldwater, Hugh Scott and John Rhodes, visit Nixon in the White House to inform him that he does not have the votes to escape impeachment in the House or conviction in the Senate. He is urged to resign.

Aug. 8 — In a shocking evening address to the nation, Richard M. Nixon announces his resignation as president, effective at noon the next day. Nearly 100% of all American TV sets are tuned to this address. I can still remember my mom and dad sitting there, stone-faced.

Aug. 9 — As Nixon famously departs by helicopter for his home in California, Vice President Jerry Ford becomes the 38th president of the United States, the only one who was never elected.

Sept. 8 — President Ford pardons private citizen Nixon for any crimes he may have committed while in office.

Gary Bennett is a longtime Frederick resident who spends his time hiking, biking, volunteering and providing childcare for grandchildren. He is married and retired from his career as a nonprofit marketing executive.

What to do with grandkids: A Frederick grandparent’s guide

By Gary Bennett

Kady and Brandon Bennett at Adventure Park

This article appears in the July 2024 issue of Frederick News-Post’s “Prime Time” magazine.

Since day care can be prohibitively expensive for many working parents, grandparents may be called upon, at least temporarily or on a steadier basis, to help with the grandkids. If you’re like me, the mind and spirit are willing, but the body is not so sure.

Don’t worry! As the last days of summer draw near and the weather is still nice, I offer here more than 25 activities (in no order) you can confidently do with the grandkids in and around Frederick.

I guarantee these activities will stave off boredom, while giving you a fighting chance at self-preservation.

Gavin Bennett at Me Land

Me Land

Tucked into an office park behind Chili’s and Texas Roadhouse off Buckeystown Pike is a hidden gem. This large indoor playground is perfect for rainy days — or overly hot days. The play structure is best for grandkids 2 to 5 who are mostly self-sufficient. Trust me: You won’t want to spend much time in the structure because of the small spaces. Me Land is very cost-friendly.

Francis Scott Key Mall

I know what you’re thinking. The mall? Yes! It’s also a great option for the rainy and too-hot days. Start your visit at the free romping area next to Value City Furniture. Then go to Macy’s or Barnes & Noble and play with the toys that are conveniently laid out for your enjoyment. If your budget allows, visit Z Planet, a kid’s fun center that features rides, games and bouncy houses. It can be pricey, however. Finish off your visit with a treat from Auntie Anne’s or the GTC Rock Shop.

Urban Air Adventure Park

On Ballenger Creek Pike, Urban Air features trampolines, ball pits, play structures and indoor zip-lining. Your kids will love this place, but go early, as it gets crowded in the afternoon and evening. It can be expensive, too, so I would position a visit here as a special treat.

Gavin and Logan Bennett at Z Planet at the mall

Tree Trekkers

Billed as an outdoor aerial adventure and zip-line park, Tree Trekkers on Old National Pike is best for grandkids that are at least 7 or 8. The ropes courses can be quite challenging and hard work, too. Plus, some of them are very high, which may frighten smaller children. Overall, it’s worth a visit, especially on cool, sunny days.

Adventure Park USA

Frederick’s very own theme park sits just off I-70 near New Market. I recommend going for the outdoor activities on nice days, such as the roller coasters, go-karts and mini-golf. The indoor arcade games can be overwhelming and are not always included with admission. Whistle Stop, their in-house restaurant, has very good barbecue. This can be another expensive outing, however.

Fourth Dimension Fun Center

This indoor fun center and restaurant is in an office park just off Buckeystown Pike about halfway to Adamstown. They feature an impressive video arcade, bowling lanes, laser tag, escape room and other cool attractions. My only complaint is they try to cram too much into their space. It’s also a very welcoming place for adults without the kids or grandkids in tow.

Kady Bennett at Summers Farm

Chuck E. Cheese

This old standby in a shopping center off Buckeystown Pike never fails to delight our 4-year-old grandson. They do a good job keeping the place clean and games updated and age-appropriate. They even trot out Chuck E. himself for a periodic meet and greet. Chuck E. Cheese is best suited for the under-6 crowd, as it gets uncool very fast. Bonus: Their pizza is actually very good!

Burger King in Mew Market

This may seem like an odd choice, but this specific Burger King comes equipped with an outdoor playground and seating area, making it a terrific place to take the grandkids for lunch while you sit comfortably, watching them play while you enjoy your Whopper.

McDonalds in Mount Airy

This is similar to Burger King, except this small play area is inside, making it a desirable destination for lunch with the little ones on rainy days. The play structure is designed for kids ages 2 to 5.

Kady Bennett at Adventure Park

Walkersville Bowling Center

Located in the most unassuming of buildings on the outskirts of Walkersville, this is Frederick’s home for family-friendly duckpin bowling. Remember to ask for bumpers to keep kids’ balls in play. This makes for an unusual but delightful outing. Very budget-friendly.

Warehouse Cinemas weekday matinees

All summer long, you are virtually assured of finding a grandkid-friendly movie during the weekday hours at this impressive theater on the west side of town on the Golden Mile. Matinee prices are affordable, especially on Tuesdays, when everyone pays $7 a ticket.

Gavin Bennett at Chuck E. Cheese

Frederick’s many parks and playgrounds

Why not tour them all? If you’re not sure where to start, that’s easy. Start at Baker Park.

Wooden slide in Rocky Ridge

Owned by Mount Tabor Lutheran and United Church of Christ, Mount Tabor Park at Rocky Ridge is home of the “big slide.” The grandkids will love sliding down this 40-foot slide into a soft pile of sawdust.

Frederick’s many ice cream parlors

Because who doesn’t like a trip to get ice cream?

Green Meadows Petting Farm

Kids will squeal with delight as you pet all the animals you wish (and even feed some) at this Frederick staple near Urbana.

Logan Bennett at Green Meadows Farm

South Mountain Creamery

This family-owned farm just to the west of Middletown features up-close mingling with cows and calves, fresh ice cream and a nice outdoor play structure. It’s also very budget-friendly.

Fountain Rock Nature Center

Many live critters residing here are just waiting for some attention from the kiddos. Many exhibits are hands-on. Plus, kids will enjoy the playground, pond and historic well and kiln on the grounds.

Earth and Space Science Lab

Located next to Lincoln Elementary School, this Frederick County Public Schools planetarium offers special evening shows for kids that will mesmerize. Best for school-aged children.

Cunningham Falls and Hunting Creek Lake

What a special treat to hike up to the falls and luxuriate in the cool, showering water. Then go to the lake for a canoe rental. This outing is very budget-friendly.

Brunswick Heritage (Railroad) Museum

The kids will love the huge, interactive HO-scale model railroad set.

Brandon Bennett on C&O Canal

Frederick County Public Library, et al

Any branch will do. Our grandkids like storytime on weekday mornings at C. Burr Artz Public Library, followed by playing with the free toys available in the Children’s Room. We like to follow up with a snack at Beans & Bagels and a visit to Dancing Bear Toys and Games.

Public Pools

Don’t forget about the Edward P. Thomas Memorial Pool and the William R. Diggs. Memorial Swimming Pool on those hot days when only a dip in cool water will do. Our grandkids love the water shower feature at Thomas and the tiny water slide at Diggs.

Others: Walkersville Southern Railroad, Summerfest Family Theatre at the Baker Park Bandshell stage, Rose Hill Manor, Skate Frederick, Catoctin Wildlife Preserve and local carnivals.

Gary Bennett is a longtime Frederick resident who spends his time hiking, biking, volunteering and providing childcare for grandchildren. He is married and retired from his career as a nonprofit marketing executive.

Logan Bennett at Urban Air